Discussion:
Is it good or bad that my boyfriend likes my feet?
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tdalton
2004-04-26 00:44:58 UTC
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I'm a teacher and have been dating a great guy for about four months
now. He's an accountant with a good firm, has a great sense of humor,
is patient, a good cook, great with my nieces and nephews. Our love
life is fine too.

Last weekend, something interesting happened. It was one of the first
times we've had warm weather where I live (western NY state) and we were
out for drinks. Leaving the place, I took my shoes off and carried
them. "Feet hurt?" he asked and offered to have me wait while he went
to get the car. I just kind of laughed and said something like, oh, get
used to it, I really really like to be barefoot (it's been so cold here
up until now that he's almost never seen me that way). My boyfriend
just smiled and said, well get used to it, I REALLY like your feet!

It seemed like a compliment and we went back to his place, and he gave
me a foot rub for what must have been close to an hour and was sucking
on my toes. In that time, I went from not even thinking twice about it
for a couple moments at the start, to liking it, to REALLY liking it,
to... well, for quite a while there, he could have asked me for anything
and I'd have given it to him. I'd never experienced feelings like that
before.

We were together a few more times this week, and each time, my feet got
"the treatment" and each time it was wonderful beyond belief. And he
hasn't changed in the past week, of course, and neither have my feelings
toward him.

But a tiny, tiny little part of me wonders if this is okay. I mean, "My
boyfriend has a foot fetish" sounds like a Jerry Springer episode. I
haven't talked about this with anyone I know, of course, because I don't
want to embarrass myself or him airing that aspect of our relationship.

99% of me says that a great guy who keeps me happy and satisfied and is
VERY unselfish as a lover is a find and then some. And we did have a
satisfying relationship for the first four months without my feet ever
being part of the equation, at least not that I know of.

The other 1% wonders if this is normal. I mean, I've had a good number
of boyfriends and never remember one being interested in that part of
me. Are there other guys who are that interested in a woman's feet?

As I said, I haven't mentioned this to any friends, and I won't. I can
just imagine at least one friend of mine saying something like "You mean
he's that nice to you and all you have to do is wear sandals and put
your feet in his lap? Watch out, I'm going to steal him!" So maybe I'm
being silly thinking about this for even five seconds?
Todd Bannister27
2004-04-26 02:42:58 UTC
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Post by tdalton
The other 1% wonders if this is normal. I mean, I've had a good number
of boyfriends and never remember one being interested in that part of
me. Are there other guys who are that interested in a woman's feet?
It is perfectly normal. A recent sex survey indicated that up to 20% of men
have a foot fetish.

A small percentage of guys take it even further and have a shoe fetish. Some
guys actually suck on the high heel of a woman's high heel shoe as though they
are giving the heel oral sex.

Your boyfriend is normal, don't spoil his fun.
Geoff
2004-04-26 08:06:46 UTC
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Post by tdalton
But a tiny, tiny little part of me wonders if this is okay. I mean, "My
boyfriend has a foot fetish" sounds like a Jerry Springer episode. I
haven't talked about this with anyone I know, of course, because I don't
want to embarrass myself or him airing that aspect of our relationship.
You ARE enjoying it arent you ? So why worry about what other people
might think.
If he gets off on wearing a pink tutu and you also like it, whats the
problem?

What happens between closed doors between you and your boyfriend
shouldnt be a topic of discussion with your girlfriends anyway, but
thats another topic.
Post by tdalton
The other 1% wonders if this is normal. I mean, I've had a good number
of boyfriends and never remember one being interested in that part of
me. Are there other guys who are that interested in a woman's feet?
Definately !
To my mind a fetish only becomes a real issue when its his sole focus
and you are otherwise neglected.
Post by tdalton
As I said, I haven't mentioned this to any friends, and I won't. I can
just imagine at least one friend of mine saying something like "You mean
he's that nice to you and all you have to do is wear sandals and put
your feet in his lap? Watch out, I'm going to steal him!" So maybe I'm
being silly thinking about this for even five seconds?
Bah!
I really wish women wouldnt discuss intimate details of their
relationships with their girlfriends. My ex's circle of friends all
knew how big each womans husbands cock was (amongst other details).
Contrary to what women may beleive, men rarely share such intimate
detail of their partners with "the boys".
Michaela
2004-04-27 19:42:20 UTC
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Geoff wrote wrote:

[snip: I basically agree with you. In fact, nice post.]
Post by Geoff
Bah!
I really wish women wouldnt discuss intimate details of their
relationships with their girlfriends. My ex's circle of friends all
knew how big each womans husbands cock was (amongst other details).
Contrary to what women may beleive, men rarely share such intimate
detail of their partners with "the boys".
Yes. No. They might not discuss such intimate details, but
they sure can lie about girls they didn't sleep with.

- Michaela
tdalton
2004-04-27 20:44:16 UTC
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Post by Michaela
[snip: I basically agree with you. In fact, nice post.]
Post by Geoff
Bah!
I really wish women wouldnt discuss intimate details of their
relationships with their girlfriends. My ex's circle of friends all
knew how big each womans husbands cock was (amongst other details).
Contrary to what women may beleive, men rarely share such intimate
detail of their partners with "the boys".
Yes. No. They might not discuss such intimate details, but
they sure can lie about girls they didn't sleep with.
- Michaela
When I'd posted, I'd hoped to hear more perspectives from women who've
been in this situation. Since I didn't hear anyone saying "Ew, I once
had a boyfriend like that, you should run fast" I'm taking that as a
good thing.

Yes, having someone who, so far, clearly cares about me, and despite
having a full and wonderful life of his own, seems to usually try to put
my comfort or happiness first, makes me a lucky woman. I hope no one
thought I was questioning my boyfriend.

And no, as my original post mentioned, I'd never discuss intimate
details of my relationships with friends. I have friends who do that,
and whether their stories about their men are positive or negative
(usually postive while they're together, negative if the relationship
sours), it's hard for me to meet the men and see them through my own
eyes after I've suffered "TMI overload." I doubt he'd benefit from
having anyone at his office know about what he does to make me happy...
and I *KNOW* I'd like any of my own colleagues to know the degree to
which I enjoy it!
Joe "Nuke Me Xemu" Foster
2004-04-28 06:21:42 UTC
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Post by tdalton
When I'd posted, I'd hoped to hear more perspectives from women who've
been in this situation. Since I didn't hear anyone saying "Ew, I once
had a boyfriend like that, you should run fast" I'm taking that as a
good thing.
Yes, having someone who, so far, clearly cares about me, and despite
having a full and wonderful life of his own, seems to usually try to put
my comfort or happiness first, makes me a lucky woman. I hope no one
thought I was questioning my boyfriend.
Obviously, since you /know/ he's attracted to you, he's no longer a
'challenge', so most likely you're going to dump him soon anyway.
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Jim Summers87
2004-04-28 11:39:52 UTC
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Post by Joe "Nuke Me Xemu" Foster
Obviously, since you /know/ he's attracted to you, he's no longer a
'challenge', so most likely you're going to dump him soon anyway.
Oh yes, the "challenge" crap that only women are interested in. No man ever
said, "I think I'm dumping the college cheerleader because she gives me too
many blowjobs, it just isn't a challenge anymore."

Women are pathetic, they think that dating and men are just some action
adventure movie that has to have a new plot twist every 50 seconds or it just
bores them.

Did it ever occur to women why they need so much outward and people
oriented stimulus? I'll tell you the reason, because when they are completely
alone with themselves they have absolutely not one single morsel of creativity
in their brain. Therefore without mental imagination and creativity they expect
their SOCIAL surroundings and MEN to keep them constantly entertained....
A***@nospamcomcast.net
2004-04-29 00:13:00 UTC
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tdalton <***@rochester.rr.com> wrote:

: When I'd posted, I'd hoped to hear more perspectives from women who've
: been in this situation.

I could put you in touch with a few. :) Nah, that would be too
much like kissing and telling... New experiences are to be enjoyed so
have fun - if you like it that's great, if it weirds you out, tell
him, I'm sure he can find other things to keep you occupied.

: Since I didn't hear anyone saying "Ew, I once
: had a boyfriend like that, you should run fast" I'm taking that as a
: good thing.

As long as you enjoy it, who cares what others think?
Personally, I've never found any part of a woman less than desireable
when she's with me. And yes, a woman can have unattractive feet, just
she can have "man-hands", and both can be a turn off. It may seem
foolish, but hey, we each react to what we react to. Take it as the
compliment it was intended to be... And enjoy... That's what life is
all about - enjoying it...

: Yes, having someone who, so far, clearly cares about me, and despite
: having a full and wonderful life of his own, seems to usually try to put
: my comfort or happiness first, makes me a lucky woman. I hope no one
: thought I was questioning my boyfriend.

You just seem young. Nothing wrong with that.

: I doubt he'd benefit from
: having anyone at his office know about what he does to make me happy...
: and I *KNOW* I'd like any of my own colleagues to know the degree to
: which I enjoy it!

<snicker>...

FooserX
2004-04-26 21:34:15 UTC
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If everyone had said it was abnormal...would you re-think you decision to date him?

Don't care what others think so much :-)

Scott
Jim Summers87
2004-04-27 05:13:27 UTC
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Post by FooserX
If everyone had said it was abnormal...would you re-think you decision to date him?
Don't care what others think so much :-)
Scott
This is a woman we are talking about here. Most women are social herd
animals.
FooserX
2004-04-27 21:16:16 UTC
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Post by Jim Summers87
This is a woman we are talking about here. Most women are social herd
animals.
lol...

No kidding. She could find Prince Charming who looked like Brad Pitt
and made her happy to no end, but if everyone in the social circle
said he was a loser and different, she'd find some reason to dump the
guy.

The opposite is also true I'm sure ;-)

Scott
tollupp
2004-04-28 17:07:35 UTC
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Post by tdalton
The other 1% wonders if this is normal. I mean, I've had a good number
of boyfriends and never remember one being interested in that part of
me. Are there other guys who are that interested in a woman's feet?
It's very common. Even happened to me. I've never given feet much of a
thought at all. But for some reason my current girlfriends feet are
great. I don't suck on them or anything, but I've definitely taken
notice of them.
Ivan Marsh
2004-04-28 17:39:27 UTC
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Post by tollupp
Post by tdalton
The other 1% wonders if this is normal. I mean, I've had a good number
of boyfriends and never remember one being interested in that part of
me. Are there other guys who are that interested in a woman's feet?
It's very common. Even happened to me. I've never given feet much of a
thought at all. But for some reason my current girlfriends feet are great.
I don't suck on them or anything, but I've definitely taken notice of
them.
I've always had an aversion to feet in general, but some women have lovely
feet.
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i.m.
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